Lifestyle.
It’s been said that if you have an interesting enough life, that you almost don’t need any pickup skills.
I don’t totally agree with that. If you are completely unable to take initiative, you’ll be debilitated in any environment.
But in some ways it still holds true.
You attract people into your life by your passions and interests. In many ways, it’s what you do that attracts people into your life, not who you are.
Ever have a friend who just always had something fun planned? He’s the go-to guy when you want to have fun.
Being that guy should be your objective. You want to be the expert in finding fun things to do.
Going out regularly with the objective to improve your skills is important, but if that’s all you’re doing, your life will quickly become vapid.
If you’re doing fun things, you can always invite someone along, however scary it may be at first.
Instead of giving you specific tips about what you should be doing for fun, here’s a thought experiment for you.
Let’s say you already had the woman of your dreams (or multiple women, whatever you’re looking for). She was yours and madly in love with you.
What would you do now? What kind of activities would you engage in if you weren’t worried about meeting women?
Start to engage in those activities now!
You can even take this one step further and pretend you’d conquered all of your dreams.
What if you were a billionaire? What if you had written the perfect album, or the great American novel?
What kind of things would you do for fun? What hobbies and interests would you take up?
Share it in the comments!
One of the most worthwhile lessons I’ve learned in achieving many of my dreams is that it doesn’t make life complete. It just shows me that exactly what I have: the moment right in front of me.
Having ambition is important. It’s what drives me. Doing creative things is what gets me out of bed in the morning.
But I often have to remind myself to enjoy this moment right in front of me because it’s the only one I know I have for sure.
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